Help! I Need Somebody

Help; something we all need and yet all too often resent. In this vast interconnected world what we can do together, shines much brighter than what we do alone. In my life I have had to learn how to accept assistance doing a great many things, which is not always easy. I personally can be a rather stubborn individual, as many who know me can attest to, but needing help is part of my daily reality. I have come to realize over the years, that depending on others does not make us weak or lesser in any way.
For most of us, maintaining a level of independence is important however it is not what makes life worth living. It may seem more desirable to go it alone, without a helping hand but at the end of the day what are you truly gaining? In my experience most obstacles are best faced together, with the support of those who care. The road ahead is not always smooth, every single one of us at some point will need someone. Help can come in many different shapes and sizes; sometimes it can be in the form of money, a place to stay, a lawn mowed or a refrigerator moved, other times it can be a bit of advice or simply just an ear to listen. We need to be able to receive assistance, as well be able to give it out. 
As the popular quote says:
"You have not lived today until you have done something for someone who can never repay you."
Helping others is something we all should strive to do, we may not all be able to contribute in the same way but everything done to make someone else’s life better makes a difference. When coming to someone’s aid, we must remember to not judge or pity them. Put yourself in their shoes, would you like to be looked down upon for needing a hand? It is important to realize that it may not be easy for someone to ask for or to be helped, we should always be respectful and courteous. It is crucial to not develop  an attitude of superiority when assisting others, it destroys the sincerity of the act. Helping someone does not make you better than them, just like being helped does not diminish your worth. 

When thinking about help, consider how mutual dependence occurs in nature. For example, the Goby fish and it’s symbiotic relationship with the Pistol shrimp. The shrimp, who is nearly blind digs a burrow where itself and the fish live, in exchange for it’s protection. When danger approaches the Goby is able warn the shrimp by constantly staying in contact with it’s antennae. Whether it’s an evolutionary advantage in the wild or just simply the right thing to do for someone in need, working together makes the world a better place. The majority of great human accomplishments in history were not done alone, rather in groups of people working for a common goal. The wisest minds know that they cannot do everything, so they surround themselves with others that can help them meet their vision, whatever it may be. There is no shame in the help I receive, it lets me live my life. I am eternally grateful for everyone who has made my life easier through their actions. I truly, get by with a little help from my friends.

"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….

First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”

But here is what I think you should know.

You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.

You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.

You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).

You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.

In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.

In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”

Libby Anne (via awelltraveledwoman)